The Transition Checklist for Change

Quoting Gilbert and Sullivan, "I've got a little list. I've got a little list." (Works better if you sing it or at least hum along.)  

Check marks this past couple of weeks decorated the following transition to-do items:

• Met with Easter Seals Crossroads assistive tech department for an evaluation to assess fine motor skills and determine what software and hardware could be helpful for college classes requiring writing; for executive function support; and, possibly, for on-the-job supports. Awaiting their recommendations. (Paying out of pocket.)

• Met with new therapist to help son Fickle Fan deal with rigid, restrictive thinking;despair over lack of friends; frustration and extreme irritability and outrage; and obsessive thinking leading to anxiety. (Paid for through husband's health insurance.)

• Met with psychiatrist. See above. (Paid for through husband's health insurance.)

• Increased dosage of anti-anxiety med, resulting in much more relaxed boy and parents. (Paid for through husband's health insurance.)

• Daughter Dearest also met with her therapist. Definitely making progress. Yea! (Paid for through husband's health insurance.)

• Encouraged DD to seek out volunteer opportunities. She's working on it. Still need to follow up.

• Took FF to mock interview session. Kinda like speed dating--several local companies send human resource reps to spend 5-10 minutes talking with potential applicants so they can get some practice interviewing. (VR/employment provider support.)

• Took FF to his first actual interview, where he was again assisted by his employment consultant. (VR/employment provider support.)

• For the first time, 21-year-old DD went out to the bars with her friend and friends of friends. Worried but grateful parents waited up till 2:45 a.m. Thank you to the the tech engineers who invented texting for the ability to send and receive unobtrusive text assurances. We may be among the very few parents, btw, who are HAPPY to see their daughter go out bar hopping--social activity in a typical peer setting, yes! Also helps that one of the silver linings of the combo OCD and Asperger's is that she has no interest in alcohol, so that part we don't need to worry about. Like the parents of any other young adult daughter, though, we will continue to worry about the behavior of any inebriated idiots she may come into  contact with during these occasional outings. 

• Participated in bus training with FF and the local transit authority. Met with trainer, discussed shoulds and should nots of riding the buses, figured out how to read the system map and schedules. Then practiced riding the bus nearest our house, which, amazingly, runs right up to the door of the business he interviewed with! (No charge for training--a regular service of the transit system!!)

• Met with academic advisor at Ivy Tech. Though FF still has a good grade in his one class, the next class he takes should be a writing class. Big problemo given his dysgraphia. We're hoping that Crossroads training (see above) will help him with that. 

• DD also met with her academic advisor and signed up for two spring courses. After successful completion of those, she'll have enough credits to transfer to IU. (Neither FF or DD qualifies for financial aid.)

• DD met with her biology tutor. Going well. Still has an A. (Out-of-pocket.)

• FF went out with a 19-year-old son of a friend. We pay him out-of-pocket to take FF out to dinner, to the movies or wherever. 

• Covered more territory with FF in the Indiana BMV's Rules of the Road booklet. Wants to take the written test and see if he can take drivers training--though he knows he may not be able to drive and that Crossroads would probably need to do the training and eventually assess his readiness to drive. (That would also be out-of-pocket, I'm sure.)

All this took place in the last two weeks. Transition takes a pretty big investment of time (and, in our case, money.)

FF's biggest complaint in the past couple of months? Change is not happening fast enough. Hmmm. Really!??