Picking a Single Transition Path

Remember when I recommended the combo approach to transition?  In a previous post (toward the end of this one, if you need to refresh your memory) I noted that we tend to choose multiple paths in life--school, work, volunteering, hobbies, etc.--and I suggested that our children with special needs should have that same choice. Well, easier said than done. 


At our final Transition IEP case conference, I was introduced to a new participant in the process: Reality. Our Indiana Vocational Rehabilitation counselor invited him. He's kind of a downer, actually, but she sent him home with us and I suspect he's here to stay.

It always amazes me how clueless I still am about how transition really works. This despite the fact that I try to read the research, I attend conferences when I can, and I work in an office with transition experts. But I'm still in the dark. For the past two years, I've had a very hard time trying to envision what our son Fickle Fan's life will be like post high school, what supports will be available to him, who will provide them, and what he'll actually be doing with his time all day. FF graduated last week, and I still don't have answers to most of those questions. 


I do know now, though, that FF will need to pick a VR path. A single, either-or path. Employment or postsecondary education. VR will support him in one of those, but not both. I was hoping that FF could take a couple of classes at Ivy Tech and have a part-time job, supported in both by a local disability service provider. That way, FF continues to learn and get exposure to new fields while he also gets needed job experience, where he'll learn job skills and all of the things that come with that, like money management, social awareness, time management, etc. Both avenues accompany opportunities that could lead to permanent employment. And, yes, I know that we'd be beating the odds if that were to happen. 


VR, however, can only put its financial eggs in one basket at a time. FF CAN decide to pursue an associate's degree at Ivy Tech and see how that goes. Then, after a year or so, if that's not working out, he can go back to VR and ask for employment support. At that point VR would then pull the lever and switch the track over to employment services. So, as I understand it, FF isn't completely out of luck if he chooses a path that doesn't immediately work for him. He could reorient himself and try again.


But I'm loathe to limit his options when he's just 18 and still stretching and opening up to life's possibilities. And, given his high-functioning autism, I'm not sure the single focus approach is a good one. Many, many neurotypical teens hold a part-time job while taking classes at a community college. I think that makes sense for FF too. 


So is that our only option? No. FF could choose to attend Ivy Tech with VR support, and he could get a part-time job, but he'd be on his own, without help finding a job, without a job coach, and on the front lines in potentially stressful situations without an advocate or with co-workers who may not understand FF's particular version of autism. It's a little scary. 


We could also take the other route. FF chooses employment with VR support and takes a class or two at Ivy Tech, but again, without support.  We would need to recruit, screen and hire tutors and probably a notetaker/scribe, and we'd need to provide him with transportation. The Ivy Tech in our area provides very little support for students with disabilities. The office of disability services will provide letters that the student can then take to professors to ask for accommodations, but, as in many other universities, the student is expected to advocate for themselves on campus and in the classroom. Self-advocacy is one of those skills that the majority of students on the spectrum lack. Nothing makes my children cringe like the thought of asking a stranger for something they need.  So having him take classes without any support seems like setting him up for failure.  


We're hoping to put a plan in place with VR in the next week or so that would also get him some sort of support for the summer. I'll keep you posted. Meanwhile, Reality says he wants to move in, rent free, and begin calling the shots. Demanding little bugger! Sigh.